Duality

When someone does things the exact way we do, we may
- adore them for the kindred spirit that they are, or
- dislike them for the blunt reminder of our own ugliness.

When someone does things the opposite way we do, we may
- repulse them due to the hopeless incompatibility, or
- admire them for realizing our hidden desires.

When we find ourselves deeply sympathizing with someone, it may be because
- they are sharing the feelings we know well, or
- they are living the wild side that we deny.